Family constellations – it is a very powerful, enlightening and revealing approach of therapy, developed by Bert Hellinger.
To begin with, family constellations are an accelerator of awareness. They show the hidden dynamics that create obstacles in our lives. This type of therapy does not work on mind level but on the level of our emotions and subconsciousness. It brings into the light the main energy currents existing in the family consciousness.
Additionally, the family memory influences us more than we can imagine. We belong to our family system and we share the unconscious dynamics. When in a family system there is a disorder such as: abuse, exclusion, abortion, migration, miscarriage, murder, etc. an imbalance is created. Moreover it is transmitted to the future generations. Due to the ‘invisible family loyalty’ identifications and systemic implications occur among the descendants.
The family constellations aim to restore the order in the family system. To fix the proper place for everyone as well. Furthermore to bring to light the unconscious functioning modes that repeatedly cause tragic conflicts and situations such as:
- Inability to form a stable couple, dissatisfaction in intimate relationships
- To find its place in society
- Professional problems
- Serial bankruptcies, lack of money
- Health problems – chronic pain, illness
- Mental disorders
- Emotional problems – anguish, depression, anxiety etc.
- All kinds of addictions (alcohol, drugs, bulimia)
- Problematic relationships with family members – parents, children, siblings etc.
- Difficulty communicating
In the first place we can work together in a group or in individual sessions. We will identify the obstacles which prevent you from living your life to the fullest. Painful repetitive scenarios will be put to end.
In fact, no prior preparation is necessary. We will work on what you determine to be a priority for you.
A session of family constellations takes place in confidence. First, the client makes his request in a clear and precise manner. In addition, he focuses on his objective; on a concrete result.
Then he chooses representatives among the participants, including one who will represent him. Afterwards he places them in the field, in silence. The client remains a witness to the movements and the feelings that the representatives show. The representatives don’t know anything about the people they represent. A phenomenon occurs: the representatives who are in “the morphogenetic field” spontaneously adopt the voice, vocabulary, gestures of the person that they embody.
In reality these perceptions correspond to the relational dynamics of the family members, living or dead, of the client’s family system. It is a setting of the family image that the client carries within himself. Thus the first setting reflects the way he perceives the situation.
In the end, the customer is asked to take his place in the constellation and absorb the new vision, the new feelings.
Actually, in a group session there are three ways in which family constellations work for you:
1. You can simply watch the constellations of other participants.
What happens in the constellation of others inevitably affects you and as a result something changes and an understanding sets in.
2. As a representative in a constellation.
The roles you represent, in a way, are always personally connected to you. You are not chosen by chance. Often your experience in a role can be very intense and liberating.
3. To make a request yourself.
This approach will allow you to either find the obstacles on your way, or a solution adapted to your situation. This work brings relief and a sense of stability and you will be able to go into more conscious and lighter life.
The individual sessions take place in a similar manner as in a group session. I meet with the client and together we create the “morphogenetic field” of his family system using figurines.
In fact, the only way to understand family constellations is to participate. Nothing replaces the personal experience (either as a client or as a representative)!
“Making a constellation is the greatest gift of love that we can afford…”
The choice is in our hands!
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Family constellations FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions About Family constellations
“Unresolved traumas from past generations must be brought to light.
As long as they remain buried in the pain of silence that surrounds them,
fears and feelings that don’t belong to us can appear in our lives – and we will think they are ours.”
If you have any other questions that are not answered here, please do not hesitate in contacting me.
Family Constellations are a powerful alternative therapeutic method to transform your relationship with your family, work, health, money and life.
Family Constellations are an effective way to transform what is holding you back so that you can live your life from your greatest potential. They help to reveal the hidden dynamics in a family or relationship and to remove the blockages affecting your relationships, finances, profession and health so you are free to live the fulfilling life you were really meant to live.
You can work on an existing issue in a group or in an individual session.
In a group: a person from the group who wishes to work on something briefly mentions the issue to the facilitator. The person chooses members of the group (whom he doesn’t know) to represent different family members, or the issue itself, or related components, in order to uncover the hidden dynamics behind it. The facilitator intervenes to guide the work.
Group members, simply by intention, connect to what is known as “Morphogenetic field” and are able to perceive sensations in their bodies or feelings about other members that help bring to light what is not known consciously. Once the dynamics are seen, healing soul sentences are used to restore inclusive love in the family and experience it, and everything that happened, as a source of strength. These perceptions correspond to the relational dynamics of the family members, living or dead, of the client’s family system.
It is a setting of the family image that the client carries within himself.
At the end the client is asked to take his place in the constellation and to ‘absorb’ the new vision, the new feelings.
Family Constellations are also done in individual sessions. Just you and me, we will explore the hidden dynamics behind what prevents you to live your life to your full potential. Through the use or figurines, you will be able to see and experience your issue in a completely different way, which creates a powerful shift in your inner image.
There are three ways in which you might experience the family constellations:
- You can simply attend, watching the constellations of other participants. What happens during the work of the others inevitably affects you and as a result something changes inside, an understanding develops.
- As a representative in a constellation. The roles which you represent are in a way personally connected to you. You are not chosen by chance. Often the experience while representing is intense and liberating. No doubt this experience will broaden your understanding of the possibilities which that method offers.
- Making the request yourself. This approach will allow you to either find the obstacles on your way, or a solution to your situation. This work brings relief and a feeling of stability. As a consequence your life will become better.
No. This process is about uncovering love and reconnecting and healing relationships. This is nothing to worry about. We are all connected anyway.
No. This is no need to do that.
Being a representative in a Family constellations workshop can help you gain insight and awareness into your own situation, relationships and emotions. Many people report great shifts or awareness rising of their own situation from being a participant.
Often people who seek Family constellations had already done a lot of personal work and are seeking a deeper and more effective approach. They know that the dynamics that are in operation are deeper than they can access themselves through reflection or determination and are seeking another way that is more effective.
Family constellations are appropriate when you are really ready for a change. When you perhaps have tried many other methods or when you have reached the point where staying as you are in no longer an option.
No, Family constellations isn’t psychodrama. It deals with the entire Family system. They go into the deeper realms of the Family system and help you find the origination of the issue.